This is a blog from eWomenNetwork member Laurie Polinski. Polinski is a results-oriented guide and intuitive mentor who helps people see beyond and break through hidden barriers so they can quickly and gracefully reach your highest potential. She is the owner of Spinning Gold Productions and a certified CORE Multi-dimensional Awareness Profile Facilitator, Creating Abundance Coach and Brain Wave Management Consultant. Check her out more at www.spinninggoldproductions.com
Change is always occurring. Change occurs in nature and, because we are part of nature, change inevitably occurs in our lives. Recently, it seems that many of my clients are noticing more dramatic and rapid change in their lives and they are looking for guidance on how to most effectively deal it. Perhaps you have noticed something in your life that once seemed as comfortable as a well-worn sneaker, and now feels tight, rough, or unstable.
We all have some things in our life, relationships or career that seem so constant and comfortable that we hardly noticed it anymore. What happens when those familiar parts of your life seem to shift and suddenly you realize that something is different? Perhaps you even feel yourself turning away from the old and looking for a new view. Maybe your old view is changing right before your eyes and you feel you’ve lost control over it.
What happens when unexpected change happens in your life?
When something which was once familiar in life begins to change, most people experience feelings of concern, anxiety, stress or even depression. Despite any inadequacies of the old view, it once served as a placeholder and a reference point for something known in your life. Uneasy feelings come as a result of the questions change brings; “What if the new view isn’t as good as the old one?” “What if it’s not as clear or inspiring as the old view?” “What if there is no new view?” When change occurs, anything rarely is for certain.
The turning point or the point of no return.
Often change occurs over a period of time but we are too busy to notice the signs of the inevitable progression. Or we cling so hard to comfort and familiarity that we ignore signs of change, hoping it won’t happen to us! Just as in nature, once one season ends another begins and there is no going back. You have passed the point of no return and you realize you have a choice to make. You can either resist and resent the new view or choose to engage this change and look for the opportunities and possibilities it brings.
We all know people who are still complaining about something that happened several years ago -as if by holding onto their resistance they might miraculously turn everything back to the way it was. Unfortunately, resisting and holding on to what has already passed is the source of stress, anxiety, confusion and dis-ease. Holding on causes us to lose our power and gives us a sense of helplessness. In this powerlessness we tend to strive and struggle harder to control and hang on to what was once familiar. This struggle cuts off our ability to proactively engage the new and actively participate in creating what we do want in our life.
What can you do to make change more acceptable and even pleasurable?
Take a moment to imagine your life to be like a flowing river. As your river flows, everything is always changing in every moment. Stress and struggle occur when you try to stop the change and hold on to the familiar by clinging to the bank, afraid to let go and risk being carried along by the current. There is no value or benefit in resisting or hanging on when change is inevitable.
Rather than becoming a victim, put yourself into a position of power. Acknowledge a shift is occurring. Relax, and let go of struggle. Stop doing and allow yourself to be with what is occurring for a while. When you do this, you can open up to see the potential and new possibilities now available to you. Your creative energy can begin to flow and you will become engaged in creating more rewarding experiences for yourself. As a result, you find yourself in-the-flow.
The benefits of being in-the-flow:
- Lower stress and anxiety
- Ability to maintain emotional clarity in the midst of chaos
- Achieve peak mental performance
- Ability to hear and trust your internal guidance system
- Make better choices and decisions for your future
- Improved focus and inner strength
- Raise self-confidence and self-trust
- Improves creative thoughts and ideas
- Increased energy
- Increased productivity
Once you become accustomed to being in the flow with the current of your life, you can creatively guide your own course. You have the ability to look ahead and steer around boulders and snags. You consciously guide yourself toward your goals because you have the clarity, foresight and power to choose the channels and branches of your river that are right for you.